There is a three strikes law for repeat offenders. A baseball batter receives three strikes during his time at bat, which then leads to an “out.” I didn’t make up the rules, I’ve just adopted them for my own use.
When you are trying to make a decision as to how to handle a situation, don’t agonize over it. Use the three strikes rule. Rather than accepting the same outcome over and over again, this provides you with a measure to use as a guide. Feel free to share your credo or keep it to yourself, whichever seems appropriate:
- If your child is doing something unacceptable, explain what they are doing and what they need to do to rectify the situation. Tell them they have one strike against them and that three for the same issue will result in some type of penalty. This gives them a chance to work on wiping the slate clean and lets them know where they stand.
- If your partner is doing something that is getting on your nerves.
- If a friend keeps standing you up at the last minute when you make plans together.
- If you experience long waits in the waiting room of any professionals that you make an appointment with.
- If recent conversations with your boss or co-worker are confusing to you as to your relationship and where you stand with them.
Using this philosophy to determine how long you intend to accept a situation will help you to finalize issues; no repeat offenders, no lingering at bat!